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Billy the Kid

June 8, 2008 · 12 comments

And now the story… dredged from the family archive. This is reality internet at it’s debateable best folks… (laughs)

Please enjoy!

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Cartoon Pen & Watercolour 8″ x 12″ Copyright 2008 Jean Burman

The billy cart stood at the ready… perched precariously at the top of the sloping driveway which pointed down in a jagged line toward the street 250 metres below. I eyed the contraption… anxiously noting the flimsy build-quality… it’s plastic seats barely hanging by the last thread on the screws which “secured” them to the thick sheet of ply that was the cart’s chassis.

The “billy” had foot-controlled steering “secured” with a rope… and bicycle hand brakes fitted on each side of the drivers seat… (not that they actually worked all that well).  But the piece de resistance… were the billy cart’s flash side mirrors… and four freewheeling 14 inch spoked bicycle wheels!

They were prone to buckling… everyone knew that. Especially around corners… when the full weight of passengers was forced onto the two opposing wheels. Many a bent up and badly twisted wheel had to be replaced after the long haul back up the hill at the conclusion of some of the cart’s (shall we say) less than successful (but no less spectacular) runs!

Thoughts of what I knew to be true about that billy cart ran through my mind the afternoon my 10 year old son pleaded with me to “come for a ride on the billy… pleeeease Mum?”

I smiled… arms crossed firmly across my chest. Uh-huh… like THAT was going to happen any time soon… (grin)

Childhood Hero Day got me thinking.  As a mother I have never particularly regarded myself as a hero. But looking back over the years of mothering children I feel fairly confident in saying I was no shrinking violet either. I did my time like other mothers on the frontline of defence for my kids. Back then it seemed like the only thing to do… and I don’t regret a minute of it!

In many ways… I guess we are heroes to our kids… even if ever so inadvertently!  Mum is the person who can fix anything… from a skinned knee… to a science project that just won’t stay stuck.

For my part… those were the days that I learned to become militant in my approach to “pretty much everything”.   And even after all the years… the “activist” label still sticks for better or worse in the hearts and minds of my kids!

It would seem I did have guts afterall! (laughs)

But in looking back… no experience large or small could have prepared me for “the ride of my life” that day on the billy cart!  Whatever possessed me to take up the challenge I can’t say. But I suspect it had something to do with showing them I was made of the “right stuff”.

Then before you could snap your fingers and say “silly woman”… there I was… bike helmet strapped firmly in place and perched precariously on the back of that flimsy cart waiting for the signal to go.   My young son was at the wheel (well okay there was no wheel… but he WAS holding onto the rope)… and I realise this may sound perverse… but I trusted him.   He had afterall done this many times before hadn’t he?

And I could be as brave as he thought I was… umm… couldn’t I?

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Andrew (age 10) and Chris (age 13) on the Billy

Finally his best friend (and co conspirator in the billy cart venture) gave the nod… and with a push we were off.  I remember the girls then aged 8 and 6… their faces bright with excitement as we flew past them out the gate and down the driveway gathering speed at a great rate of knots.   The concrete passed quickly beneath us as the billy cart picked up even more speed… and the full realisation of how silly a decision this was for a control freak like me flashed through my mind.

Palm trees lined our driveway all the way to the bottom… and they were now passing us by in a blur. I clung on for dear life as the billy got airborn over the first bump… and then the second… and ran on down the hill wheels whirring in the wind. All I could think about (between screaming my lungs out and wondering how much skin I was going to lose) … was the awful flexing of those 14″ spokes… as we swerved to miss that last palm tree by just centimetres… before taking the final sweeping turn onto the vacant block of land at the bottom of the hill!

I was seeing stars as the billy cart came to a halt in the long grass of the vacant block… and relief swept over me in an instant. My first thought… I’m alive!   My second… get me off this thing … NOW!

Oddly enough… that was the day that my reputation as “hero” was (rightly or wrongly) set in stone!   All I can say about that is “God bless my kids”… that despite the shameless display of cowardice… and whilst totally freaked out and screaming her lungs out… they still thought their mother was “pretty cool”.

And that’s pretty cool in itself isn’t it?

Aren’t kids great?  ~grin~

Well… until they turn 14 anyway… (((chuckles)))

EPILOGUE

The billy cart met with an untimely demise.  Just like little Jackie Paper had done all those years before in Puff… Chris (3 years older than Andrew) grew up… and the billy cart made way for other toys.  Chris’ younger brother Scott then took up his seat.

The billy took it’s final run with Andrew,  Scott and the dog on board… on the sloping bitumen of Park Street right outside his house.  What really happened that day I can’t say.  It wasn’t my watch.  But the story goes… the dog jumped off… the billy cart slewed… the wheel came off… the billy crashed… and both kids were dumped face first onto the road.   The dog hasn’t been seen since… (just kidding!)

Multiple stitches ensued… and a brand new front tooth for Andrew.  The billy was dispatched to where all good billy carts go when they die… wherever that is.   I didn’t want to know.  LOL

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Childhood Hero Day is June 13 and Megan at Imaginif suggested bloggers might like to post an article (or story) ahead of time… to bring attention to the day… and awareness to the fact that kids everywhere need… now more than ever… heroes in their lives!

I have written both… an article… and a story (dredged from the depths of the family archive! laughs) which I shall post next time. But for now… the article (and of course… the cartoon!)

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Cartoon Pen & Watercolour Copyright 2008 Jean Burman

A recent report “Children’s Fears, Hopes and Heroes – Modern Childhood in Australia” surveyed 600 10 – 14 year olds… and revealed that kids today believe they have much to worry about!

It turns out that:

52% of children are scared that there will not be enough water in the future

44% of children are worried about the future impacts of climate change

43% of children are worried about pollution in the air and water

A third of children are anxious about terrorism.

And a staggering one in four believe that the world will end before they have the chance to grow up!

Add to this concerns of… bullying… obesity… thinness… self image… peer pressure… and acceptance… along with the day to day “stuff” of growing up in the fast pace of modern life (sometimes in environments burdened by excessive financial and emotional hardship)… and there you have it… one gargantuan block of issues to worry about!

What can we adults be thinking? (And by adults I mean all of us… not just parents but also the greater community)

Why do we burden them so?

Childhood just has to be a time when children can simply “be children”!

If not then… then when?

They need us now more than ever to buffer their experiences… to listen to them… (and really hear)… to love them… to shelter and protect them… and to be there to tell them that everything’s going to be okay!

And it will be okay.

Despite the doomsday bleatings of the press… and despite the worrying trends of a world which seems at times to be spinning dangerously out of control… and despite the many and varied modern day issues (some of them serious) that children face today… they WILL be okay.

Just as long as we are there for them… 100%… and they know it…no matter what!

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cartoon – pen & watercolour 9″ x 12″

Artwork & content Copyright Jean Burman 2008

Okay… I needed a spiel to put with the cartoon… so here goes.

It was something said over on John’s blog the other day which tripped this off.

Ellie commented and I quote:

“Real work” is a stay-at-home mom raising children. No pay…hardly any respect, but molding the lives of those who will determine our future.

My reply was predictable given my passion for the subject:

here here Ellie. Odd isn’t it? That the most important occupation on the planet receives the least attention and respect.

The Govt. here pays for childcare so both parents can go out to “work”. It doesn’t make sense. Why not pay the mother to do the job… after all she is best equipped to look after her own children. But what woman wants to live at the bottom of the food chain?

It’s time for a change of attitude… the future depends on it.

To which Lee replied:

Jean, Ellie, in my opinion the housewife and mother is the unsung hero of this nation. Strange to say that if there is no cash rewards, the job is not honored. Very mixed up world that we live in nowadays.

It occurred to me then… that this was not only a subject I felt passionate about. It was in all likelihood… a subject that lots of people felt passionate about! And especially those who have been through it. Motherhood that is. And the stay-at-home kind of motherhood… in particular.

It has always puzzled me… how a “valid” occupation… one that requires such a great deal of self sacrifice… (but which also “sets a person up” for success in so many different spheres of life)… can be so looked down upon and disregarded by society as a whole.

The brief for the job afterall… is extensive and exhaustive.

Applicants must be on call 24 hours per day 7 days per week 52 weeks per year for the term of one’s natural life (!)

The pay is lousy… (save for those priceless snuggles and adoringly cute little smiles)

Furthermore… in alphabetical order… applicants must be proficient in

(although one does have a lifetime in which to hone these skills… by the end of such time… one will be expected to have achieved excellence)

accounting/ bookkeeping and animal husbandry: breastfeeding/ burping and Bpay: cooking/ cleaning/ counselling and costume design: dress making and driving instruction: environmental management and the emptying of lunchboxes:

firefighting (the ability to “extinguish” between real and metaphorical in this area will be viewed favourably) garbage collection: hairdressing and homework administration: hostel management and homeopathy: isolation therapy and ironing: journalism and jury duty:

kitchen duties (including the ability to mindfully study the dynamic of the humble plughole – sometimes for hours on end – in the event of the dishwasher failing to work): laundry work and lecturing: market research/ maintenance and mathematics: naturopathy/ nannying and

nuclear medicine (essential for those somewhat curly 3rd grade science projects): pharmacology/ picture framing/ petrol pumping and plumbing: quarantining: recycling/ re-roofing/ re-tailing/ re-turning/ re-routing/ re-placing/ and let’s not forget “refusing” (and any number of other skills… too many to list… beginning with “re”…

which of course implies correctly that whatever the skill was in the first place… it must be done a-g-a-i-n) ~sigh~ and *wink*

 

in addition to (hah… thought I was done didn’t you?)

sewing/singing/ sports coaching/ stockbroking/ street cleaning/ speech therapy and surgery: taxi driving/telephony/anything to do with the theatre and toxicology: video production/vehicle maintenance and veterinary nursing: waitressing/web design/waste water recycling and window cleaning/and last but not least on the list…

zookeeping… which believe it or not is a pre-requisite skill for keeping the household in order… each in his or her own place… and at the feedbox at the appropriate time!

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image – courtesy of lomokev Flickr

With all these skills clearly in abundance in the everyday stay-at-home Mum… can somebody please tell me why then… when mothers decide to re-enter paid employment they are so often [condescendingly] advised to re-skill? Re-skill? Re-skill for what? Having spent any number of years between 1 and 20… multi-tasking jobs at a rate their opposite gender counterparts could only ever dream about… who needs to re-skill?

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Mothers are not only the Salt of the Earth…

they are the Spice of Life!

They are what makes the world go round!

Mothers should be placed up ON a pedestal… (not positioned in front of one with a brush!) *wink*

They are the people who are responsible for raising the people of the future. Their contribution must be valued.

And women need to cut each other some slack here too! Women should not be made to feel inferior and small for choosing to stay at home to do the very real work of rearing the family… and they must not be “guilted” into a return to paid work… (or a career)… in order to win society’s regard. [That's not to say that those who do choose to (or must) return to paid work should not be respected and supported in their decision to do so]

Motherhood… in all it’s modern day variations and forms… is still a hallowed institution… worthy of courtesy and deep respect.

So as the world hangs in the balance “awaiting the pendulum swing” that will see Mothers the world over treated with the equal respect they deserve… the future of human civilisation continues to depend upon them. Therefore it may not be too far fetched to suggest that the successful outcomes for generations to come… may hinge upon a Mother’s success at doing her job… (learning and adapting as she goes)… and doing it exceedingly well.

And as blind freddy can plainly see… that’s a rather BIG job in any man’s language! (chuckles)

“All that I am or hope to be… I owe to my Mother” – Abraham Lincoln

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BLOG ACTION DAY – OCTOBER 15 – ONE ISSUE – ONE DAY- THOUSANDS OF VOICES

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cartoon & content Copyright Jean Burman 2007

Today is Blog Action Day. It’s a day when bloggers worldwide UNITE to discuss the same issue on the same day (in their own way) to bring awareness to an issue of global importance. The issue chosen this time around… (a decidedly “hot” topic at the moment)… is The Environment.

But just as I was climbing up onto my soapbox for one more round… (groan… I know I know… not again!) the thought occurred to me that the majority of bloggers may take this opportunity to jump upon the “gloomy and equally doomy” global warming bandwagon. So in deference to the universal laws of attraction… I thought it may be less dangerous and ultimately more constructive to focus on the “positive” and decided to run with a funny little story that really did happen… (just a few years ago)

This story became the stuff of legend in our family… growing bigger and better by the year. It was the day when mum let rip and stepped out from the kerb… in one small step for the family and one giant leap for mankind! LOL

A bit of background.

The year was 1997. We had been in the Philippines for just over a week staying at the relatively posh Peninsula Hotel in Makati (the business district of Manila). Over the course of our stay the Hotel had become a safe haven for us as we travelled about the city… a place to retreat back to and literally “catch our breath”… when we could take no more of the bustle, the traffic, the heat, the glare, the constant crush, the confusion, the squalid atmosphere, and the acrid air!

As Aussies… used to living in a comparatively uncluttered unpolluted and unspoiled country… the Philippines (and Manila in particular) had come as quite a shock to the senses. Most startling for us was the great divide between the haves and the have nots… and the contrast as opulent excess rubbed shoulders with abject poverty.

But more than that… there was the pollution… not “rubbish on the streets” kind of pollution… (in fact even the slums had some semblance of order) but the staggering level of industrial pollution. It was high Summer… excessively hot and sultry… and the air was virtually “unbreathable “out on the street. The wide dual lane carriageway outside the Hotel was divided by a grassy median strip lined with drooping date palms their trunks caked black with carbon. I marvelled at their tenacity!

Fortunately… we were driven most places in an air conditioned van. Fortunate I say… for two reasons

1. Because to walk out onto the streets and breathe the air even for the shortest time… would have afforded a lifetime exposure to toxic levels of carbon monoxide and any number of other noxious chemical emissions.

2. And because as a foreign driver you’d never survive the drive… as roads marked for two or maybe three lanes bulged at the seams with cars, trucks, buses and jeepneys “jammed in” six across… and vying for pole position. (To tell you the truth… the only “pole” position I saw… was when a bus in central downtown Makati rounded the corner on the inside lane and was shunted up onto the footpath and impaled against one!) But I digress…(grin)

The Story.

The day began like any other. Nose pressed up to the glass I looked out the hotel window down to the street and watched as cars on the early morning business commute banked up on the street out side. We were without a car for the day as DH had meetings out of the city and the car had been dispatched for this purpose. So the kids and I looked at each other and reviewed our options. A dip in the pool was ruled out as it was on ground level and as we already knew… the air down there was impossible to breathe… so the decision was taken to spend the morning investigating the brand new air conditioned shopping mall right across the road from the Hotel.

The next decision was how to get there. This would be a no-brainer anywhere else… but here… it was something I really had to think about.

‘Should we get a cab… (to-go-across-the-road?)… or should we run the gauntlet and see if we can make it across on foot?’

Common sense (and social conscience) prevailed as I set off trailing three little kids behind… down the elevator… around through the back of the hotel and out onto the street. I had instructed them before we opened the back door that if the fumes were too strong and we had to wait too long to cross… I would give the nod and we would run back inside. (Bizarre isn’t it? Well it was to me… where I came from clean breathable air was a given!)

The crowd at the pedestrian crossing quickly swelled as we waited patiently to cross. The air was thick and hot and the fumes were choking. We waited a few minutes and then with eyes burning and struggling for breath… we edged our way further into the crowd and a little closer to the kerb. The three lanes of traffic (now blown out to five) flowed belligerently past with not the slightest intention to stop. I looked around and realised that by now we were too deep into the crowd to beat a hasty retreat… and there in front of us… the slow surge of traffic (matched only by the slow surge of anger rising inside me) showed no sign of abating. Why wouldn’t they stop? This was a pedestrian crossing afterall… and we were dying out here! It was crunch time!

I have always found anger to be the best motivator… especially when it comes to anything to do with my kids! And so it was… that I became the unwitting hero that day… as I turned and instructed the kids to wait. Stepping determinedly (and perhaps more than a little bit stupidly) off the kerb and out into the traffic… I raised my hand defiantly and with a mixture of great authority and self righteous indignation singlehandedly stopped the traffic. I’m still not sure to this day who got the biggest fright… me… the kids… or the cars buses and trucks across five lanes of traffic… who after screeching to an extremely reluctant halt… then sat on their horns blasting us as the crowd surged triumphantly across the street to join me.

Afterward in the wash-up of excited conversation with their father… we all agreed it was a small (but necessary) victory. In the case for man (or in this case “woman”) against machine… woman had won out… and saved the eyesight and lungs of at least a few dozen people that day… including her own three small children. *wink*

Long story short… Manila was one of the most polluted cities I had ever visited. Granted… it was summer… and the heat inversion was something else… but the sight of the leaden grey sea and sky across Manila Bay (in particular) and breathing air that burns the eyes and skin on contact… struck fear in my heart that every city in the world could become like this one if nothing were done to reduce the levels of pollution that man emits into it’s atmosphere. Life would not be worth living without fresh air to breathe and it’s not until we are deprived of it that we realise how precious a resource it really is. But by then it will be almost too late…

Personally… I think that the focus of our efforts should be on reducing emissions (for the right reasons) rather than arguing the political toss over the existence or otherwise of global warming and climate change… and the impact of the human footprint. To me… that’s just wasting time. We know we are polluting the earth… and what better motivator could there be to clean up our act and reduce our emissions… than to no longer have fresh air to breathe?

Asphyxia (and a whole host of modern day illnesses caused by our toxic environment – including cancer) sure beats the heck out of rising sea levels… and heat exhaustion… as a terrible way to die!

Comments always welcome…

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